Finding the right person is only part of the work.
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That is, perhaps, the most important thing Marcella De Blasi has come to understand in her work as a relationship coach at Macbeth Matchmaking. Before any introduction can be truly meaningful, something else is required: an honest understanding of who one is, what one genuinely needs and whether one is ready — not just willing, but genuinely available — to let someone else in.
Marcella works with Macbeth Matchmaking clients at the emotional and psychological level of the matchmaking journey, supporting them through the reflections, fears and transformations that the process of looking for a lasting relationship inevitably brings to the surface. Her approach is quiet, precise and deeply human.
We spoke with Marcella about the nature of emotional readiness, the patterns she observes most often in high-achieving singles and what she has come to believe about the inner work that makes love possible.
A relationship coach helps clients navigate the emotional side of the matchmaking journey.
Finding a meaningful relationship is not only about meeting the right person — it is also about understanding oneself, recognising patterns, improving communication and becoming emotionally available for a healthy partnership.
Within the agency, my role is to support clients with reflection, perspective and emotional guidance throughout the process.
Sometimes this means helping someone rebuild confidence after disappointment. Sometimes it means encouraging healthier relationship dynamics or helping clients clarify what they truly need in a partner.
The emotional aspect of matchmaking is incredibly important, and often transformative.
Emotional readiness is the ability to approach a relationship with openness, stability and genuine availability.
It does not mean someone is perfect or has everything figured out. It means they are capable of creating space for another person emotionally, mentally and practically.
People who are emotionally ready tend to communicate openly, take accountability for past experiences and approach relationships with curiosity rather than fear or defensiveness.
You can often sense when someone is truly ready because they are no longer looking for perfection — they are looking for connection, partnership and emotional compatibility.
Many accomplished individuals are extremely competent in their professional lives, but relationships require a completely different kind of vulnerability.
I often see people who are very independent and self-sufficient, sometimes to the point where allowing someone into their life feels unfamiliar or uncomfortable.
Another common pattern is emotional fatigue from modern dating. Many successful singles have experienced years of superficial interactions, inconsistency or disappointment, which can create frustration or emotional guardedness.
At the same time, they usually have a very deep capacity for loyalty, commitment and meaningful partnership once they feel emotionally safe and understood.
Self-awareness.
Understanding one’s emotional patterns, communication style, fears, expectations and relationship history is incredibly important.
Many people focus heavily on finding the right person, but long-term relationships also depend on becoming the right partner emotionally.
It is important to understand what creates connection for you, what triggers distance or defensiveness and what kind of relationship dynamic truly supports your wellbeing.
The healthier and more conscious someone becomes emotionally, the healthier the relationship they are likely to build.
I try to create a space where clients feel safe, heard and understood without judgement.
The matchmaking journey can bring up many emotions — hope, excitement, vulnerability, fear, disappointment and sometimes self-doubt.
Part of my role is helping clients maintain perspective and emotional balance throughout the process.
I also encourage clients to remain open and curious, rather than approaching introductions with excessive pressure or rigid expectations.
Relationships often develop in unexpected ways, and emotional flexibility is very important.
The most rewarding moments are often very quiet and human.
Sometimes it is seeing someone become hopeful again after years of discouragement. Sometimes it is witnessing a client lower their emotional barriers and genuinely open themselves to connection.
And of course, it is incredibly moving to see two people build a real relationship together.
What I find most meaningful is not only the relationship itself, but the personal transformation that often happens along the way.
I would say: start with openness and patience toward yourself.
Many people feel pressure around relationships, especially after difficult experiences or long periods alone. But meaningful connection rarely begins from pressure — it begins from authenticity and emotional openness.
It is also important not to lose hope because of modern dating culture. There are still many people looking for genuine, committed and emotionally healthy relationships.
Sometimes all it takes is the right environment, the right guidance and the willingness to remain emotionally present when the right connection appears.
There is something quietly clarifying about speaking with Marcella. She does not frame the work of finding love as a problem to be solved or a process to be optimised. She frames it as an invitation — to know oneself better, to become more available, to approach the search with the same quality of attention one would bring to anything else that genuinely matters.
At Macbeth Matchmaking, coaching is part of how we think about the search. We believe the right introduction is only as good as the readiness of the person receiving it.