The importance of significance, certainty & love in relationships
If it’s a healthy relationship you require, one where everyone’s core needs and motivations are both known and met, one of the quickest ways to achieve this is to explore what you both values. When you know what you value in a partner and vice versa, you will more easily recognise when you are and are not receiving or providing it.
Knowing what your top emotional needs are and the order in which they resonate for you will teach you how to govern and express yourself to people. It will give you the capacity to explain why you expect the things you do and perhaps why you behave in ways that may not be easily understandable to other people. It means less guesswork involved and everyone being clear where they stand.
In this article we walk you through the themes of love, significance, certainty and their opposites. The aim is to show you how they each impact the way your relationship functions and how your preferences in these areas will affect your life.
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