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It’s important to detect whether someone is worth dating or not. We all live busy lives these days and we want to be sure someone is worth the time and effort. To know whether someone is really worth it, we need to be clear about what we want for ourselves, and what traits we find essential in other people, especially in that special someone we are likely to end up spending a lot of time with.
So before starting the dating process, make sure to take some time out for yourself to think about what you look for in others, in particular in that special someone. Don’t be afraid to ask yourself questions – just make sure you answer honestly! And do the same with that person you’re thinking of dating – what are they like? What do you love about them? What are you not so impressed with? Can you put up with their “shortcomings”? Does the good outweigh the bad?
This is a great exercise to clarify your feelings about this person and to ensure you know what it is that attracts you to them, even though these are fluid aspects that can, and will, change through time and with experience.
First of all, is he losing interest or just stressed?
It hurts when we feel that the special someone in our life may be losing interest – we feel attacked in a way, or we might feel a sense of abandonment. These feeling are completely normal and to be expected! But is he really losing interest? He may well just be going through a particularly stressful moment in his life that means his attention is divided.
To make sure we’re not worrying over nothing, the best thing to do in these situations is to confront the matter head on and talk it out, in an honest, open conversation. It will do you both a lot of good! It’ll be a chance to reconnect with one another and ensure you’re both on the same page. You might even be able to help each other destress or resolve some issues that are causing the stress.
Signs he’s losing interest
So if he is losing interest, how will this manifest? What are the signs to look out for? It could be a variety of things, from changes in his messaging patterns, or a lack of interest or drive during intimate moments, or lack of initiative in terms of relationship plans and activities. He may not be very forthcoming or responsive when asked about these behaviours directly, or he may suddenly become defensive, ashamed or even aggressive, in extreme cases. Also, there may be signs he’s losing interest through text messaging, if he ignores messages or delays his replies, you can find an article about that in the article he’s online but not replying go check it out, also the blog post he stopped texting me, where we talk about it.
It’s important to know what to look out for in order to detect it early on and be able to act on it. Try talking to your friends, or his friends, to see if they are also experiencing the same behaviours from him as you are.
Loss of interest may even be concealed, for example he may appear to be interested when in fact his interest is waning but he doesn’t know how to talk about it. It is crucial to create a safe space within the relationship in which both partners feel that they can express themselves freely and clearly, and without judgment. No one should be made to feel ashamed about the way they feel in a relationship!
He is not as enthusiastic as before
Perhaps you have noticed a lack of enthusiasm when it comes to your plans together, mostly those that are a little more long-term. He could be hesitant about envisioning something long-lasting and it could be reflected on his negative attitude towards these things.
But the lack of enthusiasm could also relate to maybe going out and noticing that he is not really in the moment, or maybe that he has been detaching himself from date ideas and just lets you plan the whole day. Be aware if he used to be excited about things that now he just dismisses blatantly.
No time dedicated to your relationship
Of course it is normal to get caught up in life’s everyday challenges and there will be times when trying to do prioritize the relationship feels like an impossible mission. But there are always ways in which one can be present for their significant other, and little moments that can be dedicated to the couple.
If, even after bringing it up to him, he insists on it being a time problem and seems to not want to make an effort to salvage the relationship, he could be losing interest in sustaining it altogether so you should take careful note of his actions.
He seems distant
Individuality is one thing, and it is really important for both parties in a relationship to be able to do things on their own and just live their individual lives. However, being distant is more about that individuality taking over the fact that the relationship exists, as well as its importance.
If it seems like when he is with you he would rather be alone, or maybe out with friends, or if he is not communicating like he used to and lacking receptiveness, he could be questioning his willingness to continue making an effort into the relationship.
You cannot talk as openly anymore
Perhaps you have noticed that you used to able to talk about anything and everything with him without problems, but maybe now it seems like he gets irritated or bored when your conversations are longer or deeper than just chit-chat.
If might feel as though he is not really keen of the idea of engaging in conversations with you anymore, and he could go as far as to ask you on different occasions to change the topic or to stop talking. This is something that someone, who is currently not sure about how they view you or your relationship, would do.
Actions are not reciprocal
You should not be giving more than what you are receiving, and this only means that your partner should show love to you, in the same way – though forms may differ – that you do it. Half-given hugs, not wanting to hold hands, not replying to loving texts (and not acting like your significant other in general) means he is probably not feeling like it anymore.
These actions might not happen all at once, and it probably would be progressive towards the most evident ones, so be wary if they are repetitive and seem to be worsening with time.
Once they lost interest… can you get it back?
Once a guy loses interest, can you get it back? Can interest be revived once it’s lost? Good news – we think it can! Although this depends on each individual case, the best thing to do is to talk it out, so we can understand the reasons behind the loss of interest. Depending on the exact causes, we can start to rebuild interest. In some cases, it might be best to realise that the relationship has come to its natural end and it may be more beneficial for both parties to part ways, hopefully amicably!
So they have lost interest in you; how do you get it back? In many cases, there are steps that can be taken to revive lost interest. For example, there may be certain specific things one of the two partners isn’t getting from the relationship that they used to, for example attention, a sense of being loved, affection, being listened to, emotional support, etc. We may not be aware of this if the partner in question keeps these feelings to themselves for fear of hurting us or the relationship!
A short break together, a romantic meal, a cosy night in together may all be good ways to revive lost interest and reignite that spark that got you together in the first place!
Is there hope?
We believe that if interest is lost in a relationship, all is not necessarily lost. It’s crucial to have an open and honest conversation around what both parties are feeling and what their need, thoughts and fears are in order for both to be on the same page and to be able to work something out together. For more matchmaking and dating tips, visit the Macbeth dating introduction agency.
